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In other words, while the intention might be to make others laugh or to be silly, the impact of hurtful comments is negative reagardless of benign intentions. Students need to be accountable for their actions. No one has the right o tell you how you should feel. (You shouldnt be so sensitive, You shouldnt be mad at me) The Internet: The internet has become the new version of the bathroom wall. Children and adolescents use the internet to trade information about one another. It is comprable to having recess away from adults. While we continue to educate children about stranger danger, some of the greatest hurts can be inflicted on-line by friends and classmates rather than predators. What tools are students using to cyberbully? -Instant Messaging: Students can create away messages that say anything. For example, a students away message can be as benign as, not at my computer or as threatening as dont talk to Lauren-I hate her -Blogs-students believe that web logs, known as blogs, are private diaries. However, they are public and often spread gossip and/or damaging information about classmates. -Sharing passwords-It has become common to share passwords with friends. If a friendship goes south students can use passwords to pretend to be someone else, or read a friends e-mail/IM messages. -Cell phone-Text messaging hurtful and/or threatening statements and/or sharing provocative /inappropriate pictures via camera phones. Strategies for students: -Do not share any personal information about yourself and/or others, or pictures of yourself and/or others on-line -If you are uncomfortable with something being said, TURN OFF the computer, walk away and tell an adult -On-line journals are PUBLIC so students should not share information that you dont want others to know -Do not plan to argue or continue an argument on line. Conflict is handled best face to face when both parties are calm. -Do not say anything on-line that you wouldnt say in person-words that are typed can be just as hurtful as spoken words. -Before you hit the send button, read your message OUT LOUD. Ask yourself, would I say this is person? If the answer is no, edit the message and/or delete it. -Do no post hurtful away messages on IM (example, Laurens a jerk is not an appropriate away message) -Avoid using IM all together-pick up the phone and talk to your friends -Dont EVER share your password with ANYONE except your parents Strategies for parents: -Make your expectations clear-talk to your students about how they and their friends use technology. Establish family rules related to using the computer. -Provide clear consequences for inappropriate computer use. -There is no reason a computer should be in a childs room, behind a closed door. It should be in a public space of the household. -Make your home the counter-culture. As much as they might tell you otherwise, not every other parent lets their kids have a cell phone, computer in their room, IM, etc. -Let your kids have an out. If they are uncomfortable on-line, allow them to say my mom needs me or wish I could talk, but its dinner time -A red flag for parents is if students minimize the screen when you walk by. Remind students that the internet is a public forum. -Give kids language to not be involved in friends arguments. Example: I am so sorry youre upset with Jane, but I have to stay neutral. -Teach kids to be empowered bystanders-if students receive something hurtful about a classmate or inappropriate material they should not pass it on or share it with others. 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